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>One story to end ’08

In family, Technology on December 31, 2008 by mstevensrev

>This year was wacked.  Not sure how to even begin to describe it to those of you who were not along for the ride, some of you know, and I might have time to put together a list of some of the events, but it will take some thought so I want to tell a heart-warming tale to end 2008.

Christmas day I convince Karin for our family to get a wii.  Doesn’t sound like a big deal for most, but for us it really is.  We are saving, pinching pennies, the budget rules us and was feeling like a prison.  So it was a big deal and thanks to it being a gift from family it made us feel good.  Little did we know that there aren’t any in stock anywhere.  We call Bestbuy on the 26th, the person lied and said they had them, and then wasted a trip there only to be disappointed.
So I twittered on it.  Then I began searching wiiripofflist, errr  craiglist to see what was there, made a few calls, but none of the leads seemed good.  So we waited.  Then I get an email from an account manager for a very large localization company who I compete with out at Microsoft, though there is not much competition since his companies does lots more business than us.  He email and texted me that he had an extra wii.  This whole waiting time I had been hoping for a used one because frankly full price seemed silly and I didn’t want to add one more to the waste pile in a few years.  He had a system which he gave me a very reasonable price on!  We have been having a blast the last two days playing!  My daughter is amazing at bowling and has been kicking our butts!
A few lessons for me from 2008, some related to this and other events:
1.  People matter, not just a little bit, the are the most valuable thing in your life (after God) and you  need to treat them that way.  It does not matter who they are.  Yes, family get special treatment and spouses even more special, but these relationships are what we are given and God cares about what we do with them.  I hope to treat people better next year.
2.  Technology is cool and even cooler when it brings people together.  We are just making baby steps about how technology can bring people together.  The Social Web is nice, but it is worse than baby talk right now.  I am excited about how we will be brought together as we move into the future.  Twitter, blogs, facebook, wii, iPhone are all neat technologies but just the beginning.  Not only do I want to continue to take advantage of these, I’d like to drive the creation of a cool one myself.
3.  Be true.  Nothing causes more trouble than lies.  I make stupid decisions, I need to own them.  I try to cover my own butt, I need to stop it only makes things worse.  I get angry, listening and patience go a lot further than a raised voice.  People eventually learn to deal with the truth, and in the long run it is best for everyone!

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>Reminds me of Thomas Jefferson’s view of the newspaper…

In Uncategorized on December 18, 2008 by mstevensrev

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>My daughter taught me…

In family, Theology on December 16, 2008 by mstevensrev

>Tonight while playing with my one year old I learned.  I was sitting on the ground, as she would get up I would grab her and hug her.  After two times I quit grabbing her, instead of running away at full speed she would actually walk backward and fall on me.  The fun for her was not the play of running away but rather falling into her father’s arms.  

Maybe that is what sanctification looks like.  Instead of the fun we think we are having running away and being grabbed by the Father, perhaps we need to find out if when God let’s us go, falling back into his arms is the way to go?  Just something I learned.

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>Amazing quote

In faith, quote on December 12, 2008 by mstevensrev

>”Justice is what love looks like in public.” – Cornel West

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>In route to SFO Office

In Uncategorized on December 9, 2008 by mstevensrev

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>Never Understood Rowing

In Uncategorized on November 27, 2008 by mstevensrev

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Here in Seattle was the first time I was really introduced to rowing culture.  Honestly I didn’t get it.  Back East it was something that Ivy Schools did, which is funny coming from someone who played lacrosse.  While we lived in Oakland a rowing club would have breakfast right next to our Men’s Bible Study on Saturday mornings, and I would often catch myself not paying attention to what we were supposed to be studying and listening to the rowing clubs conversations, and I still didn’t get it.  Rowing to me seemed too early to wake up, cold, wet, expensive, lonely (even on a team your just looking at the back of someone’s head), and just outright odd.

So why am I writing all this?  Because I read a quote that helped me understand and I wanted to share it with you,

"Rowers have a word for this frictionless sate: swing…Recall the pure joy of riding on a backyard swing: an easy cycle of motion, the momentum coming from the swing itself.  The swing carries us; we do not force it.  We pump our legs to drive our arc higher, but gravity does most of the work.  We are not so much swinging as being swung.  The boat swings you.  The shell wants to move fast: Speed sings in its lines and nature.  Our job is simply to work with the shell, to stop holding it back with our thrashing struggles to go faster.  thriving too hard sabotages boat speed.  Trying becomes striving and striving undoes itself.  Social climbers strive to be aristocrats but their efforts prove them no such thing.  Aristocrats do not strive; they have already arrived.  Swing is a state of arrival."

David Allen, Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity

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>How do you defend you name?

In church, Community, Theology on November 27, 2008 by mstevensrev

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One time at work a major client had a poor impression of my boss and actually referred to him a sneaky.  This cause lots of struggle for my boss and I remembering him saying to me, "Mike, all you have is your name. You work so hard to build a good one, and then like that it is in question."  I could not relate to his pain and found it amusing on one level.

Just this week I found out some news that I don’t think I was fairly represented.  How do you deal with that?  Defensiveness only makes you appear guilty, and then Paul says in 1 Cor. "sometimes maybe it is just better to be wronged".  What a powerful tool Satan uses when he allows our name to be dishonored publicly.

This is where the power of story comes in, at least I hope.  My hope in this situation is that I understand my own story well enough to communicate it in a non-defensive way.  I value the perception someone already has (right or wrong) and make it easy for them to understand my part of the whole.  Each one of these important but very tiny pieces we have of story are a part of a much greater story.  With this greater story we might know some of the major themes, but we don’t know the twists and the turns or even at times how our little piece fits into the whole.

What harm can it do?  Sometimes you might just be wronged, you don’t have to choose that as a option, but if it happens you can look to God and wink because he said it would happen.  Don’t run after suffering, it will easily enough find you, when it happens give God a wink or pull on his coat to get his attention because you will need the help to get through it.

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>Good Video I got to be in

In Uncategorized on November 25, 2008 by mstevensrev

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Grace Seattle 10th Anniversary from Grace Seattle on Vimeo.

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>The Spaces In-Between and Fall in Seattle

In blogging, End of Year, Technology, television on November 25, 2008 by mstevensrev

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I find those who are successful use the space in-between things well, they fit in a moment to think, write, draw, workout, and do things that will keep juice flowing while returning to the other ‘important’ things they are doing.

A friend of mine says the important things always happen on the way to what you think is important.  Another way to look at it is, that which you pursue you never achieve but rather what you get in the process of pursuit is the gem.  Think about people who desperately want to have friends, they are the last people you want to be friends with.

The fall in Seattle offers great in-between times.  Part of it is that it gets dark at 4PM.  The days are very short and it doesn’t seem like there are that many useful hours in a day, whereas the summers seem very productive (and therefore terrible times for me to blog).  Currently I am noticing that many of the main things, such as training, I am finding it hard to fit in, yet things for the in-between times are really impacting me.  I’m watch some talks from TED: Ideas Worth Spreading.  Nothing like listening to some of those folks to make you think you can change the world.

Lastly I found a really interesting headline that I did follow in the NY Times, What Happy People Don’t Do, in short they don’t watch TV.  Now I love TV, I just hate having my life revolve around it.  There for I love, TIVO, Netflix, NBC Online, and the various other sources that allow me to watch what I want when I want.  So I’m not sure that happy people don’t watch TV, but I think they don’t watch it the way others think they should.

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>A marathon and another significant event

In church, family, Prayer on October 24, 2008 by mstevensrev

>Karin and I arrived in MD three days ago, after two days in my parents house we left the kids and are vacationing in Washington D.C.  To be specific we are staying in Old Town Alexandria and I am running the Marine Corp Marathon (MCM) on  Sunday when the kids and grandparents will meet up with us.  

One of the most significant moment, I felt something shift in me, was when I ran my first marathon, Big Sur, over three years ago while still living in Oakland, CA.  While running the race something changed in me and I knew that a year from that day things would be significantly different in my life.  About six months after I had resigned my job, lost my house and turned thirty years old.  Very significant.
Now I’m about to embark on my eighth marathon, and my first full day in MD I received some significant and very sad news regarding our old church in Oakland.  Thankfully since Karin and I are on our own, no work or kids, we have tons  of time to process and pray about it.  There will be pleny more for me to write on the matter at this time I am unable though.  For one I don’t know how much of the information I have is rumor and truth, I’m not confident in what direction God is taking things, I have no idea my role, and God and I are still talking (so far most of our conversation has been in passing and we need a sit down).
If you read this blog please pray.  Currently Karin and I are doing great, there is anger and sadness, but both are expected.  We are going out and having fun today.  I am very grateful for what God has done for me and my family.  We have been at arm’s length of tragedy a few times in our short life, and God has protected us from being grabbed and dragged down with it.  Being so close to tragedy isn’t fun though.